Saying Yes to the Dress Without Feeling Shit About Your Body

Wedding dress shopping should be fun an exciting and empowering experience, but what if you have body hang ups (so, erm, that’s all of us then)?

So, you’re getting married, yay! The excitement of saying yes, telling your friends and family, finding a venue and finding something fabulous to wear. It should all be so… magical… right?

Truthfully, and perhaps you’re in this phase right now, wedding planning can be a bitch.

It’s not unusual for equal measures of (if not more) tears of frustration to feature alongside the tears of joy in the run up to the big day. The pressure of ‘the PERFECT day’ is intensely, and sadly, oh so real.

Perhaps nowhere is the stress higher than on what brides ‘should’ look like. Grooms, you sort of got it covered in the suit department, although I recognise that this doesn’t mean that you don’t also feel stressed out by your wardrobe choices. There just isn’t the level of expectation on masc folx as there is on femmes.

We live in a society saturated with ‘diet culture’, this is every message that tells you that you must look a certain way to be happy, successful and valued in this life. Currently, we have a beauty standard that is *obsessed* with thinness. We cannot move without being told that our bodies need to change. We’re sold products, services and lies that we need to take up less space, be small and get our bodies in check.

Diet culture is grounded in patriarchy, ableism, healthism, colourism, colonialism, euro-centric BS beauty ideals, gender-normative stereotypes and capitalism. Diet culture is linked to Instagram ‘wellness’ culture, gym culture and every other sneaky sub-category around that places a certain type of body as having more value than another. Diet culture needs to die.

Sadly, it’s alive and kicking and making us all feel shit about ourselves every goddamn beautiful day. While we should be #feelingblessed for simply existing as one of nature’s greatest marvels, that’s to say, just being here being you is a rad AF miracle. It’s waaaaay too easy to compare yourself to an Instagram post by one of the Kardashians’ (seen in society as the pinnacle of our current beauty standard), look in the mirror and decide that you and your body aren’t measuring up.

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Laid Back Boho Barn Wedding with Laser Pigeon Shoot

Reunited ten years after dating as teenagers, Ellis and Bekki’s paths crossed again at a nightclub, and as Bekki told us, “That was that!”. They married at The Barns at Lodge Farm in Epping, with a wedding that was totally in line with their laid back country lifestyle, but with a touch of glam. Defying wedding traditions, the couple did their day their way, with no first dance, no cake cutting, and elements that reflected their characters, with lots of music and a laser pigeon shoot.

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Enchanted Forest Wolf Themed Wedding

Ookami and Tyler had a big budget, $100,000, and they went ALL OUT on their enchanted forest theme, even so far as constructing their own enchanted forest inside their venue with the help of the incredible GreenSinner team. The bride grew up working with exotic animals and in conservation, one of which were wolves. Her first name means wolf and is an animal trainer with focus in wolf/wolf-dog/dog and general canine education… So the wolf inspired addition to their theme was just perfect for them.

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Polished Punk Meets Retro Kitsch Vegas Elopement

If you’re not aiming for a day full of fun when you plan a Las Vegas elopement, you’re not doing it right! Jeff and Nikki put the emphasis firmly on having a good time, tossing convention aside and customising every part of their day to celebrate their quirky passions. With Elvis officiating at the Graceland Chapel ceremony, the couple crafted a wedding day that was fun, low maintenance and completely on-brand for them!

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San Francisco Live Music Wedding with Party Vibes

A chance meeting in a San Francisco gallery set Shannon and Trevor on course for a unique and chic rock and roll wedding under the glorious Californian sun. They wanted to make sure their day didn’t feel like an uptight affair, rather a party they wanted to hang out at with their friends and family. With live music and no sit-down meal, Shannon and Trevor stuck to their motto of “Do whatever you want”.

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The Black Parade: A Gothic Shoot for Rock n Roll Bride Magazine

Issue 41, the gothic issue, featured one of my all time favourite shoots (do I always say this? Yes, probably!) We wanted to elevate the idea of a gothic bride and to create a shoot with a high end, high fashion feel, yet something still super attainable for anyone wanting to embrace the dark side.

Its important to us that the shoots we put together for the magazine aren’t just beautiful, but that they feature wearable pieces which you can incorporate into your own wedding day look, whether you’re going for something more traditional with a subtle gothic twist or you want to be a full-on gothic princess.

Our stunning non-binary model, Nan, has albinism and when we found them, we know they were the perfect face to bring our gothic meets high fashion vision to life.

Here are all the looks we put together:

LOOK ONE

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